Monday, May 17, 2010
I remember it well. I was driving my two daughters to school. My oldest one said something that prompted this remark from me.
"You are SO spoiled!"
She looks at me, blinks those beautiful big eyes and says, "But dad, you're the one that did it to me!"
I looked at her and said, "You are right. And it is going to change, from this moment on."
We instituted some changes that led to both children becoming productive, responsible, hard working contributors to society. They run their households well, they raise their children well. We are so terribly proud of them.
David also spoiled his kids. But he never corrected. He "loved" them, but he could not discipline them. Absalom ended up coming into adulthood as a spoiled, self centered, egotistical infant.
28 "Absalom lived in Jerusalem for two years, but he never got to see the king. 29 Then Absalom sent for Joab to ask him to intercede for him, but Joab refused to come. Absalom sent for him a second time, but again Joab refused to come. 30 So Absalom said to his servants, “Go and set fire to Joab’s barley field, the field next to mine.” So they set his field on fire, as Absalom had commanded.
31 Then Joab came to Absalom at his house and demanded, “Why did your servants set my field on fire?”
32 And Absalom replied, “Because I wanted you to ask the king why he brought me back from Geshur if he didn’t intend to see me. I might as well have stayed there. Let me see the king; if he finds me guilty of anything, then let him kill me.”
33 So Joab told the king what Absalom had said. Then at last David summoned Absalom, who came and bowed low before the king, and the king kissed him."
And the king kissed him?
This kid murdered his own brother!
David had set a boundary. He would not see Absalom again. Then he capitulated. This kind of parenting leads to one thing, and one thing only.