Wednesday, April 14, 2010

My Father-in-law Hates Me!

How do you spell
"d-y-s-f-u-n-c-t-i-o-n-a-l  f-a-m-i-l-y?"

David does not appear to be politically ambitious.

David Earns Saul’s Daughter (the first time)

He comes off the fields to bring food to his older brothers - who are soldiers on the front lines. A challenge is being passed down the lines. "Anyone who will kill this monster giant can have the king's daughter as wife."

David killed Goliath, not because of the marriage opportunity, but because it rankled him that the Lord's army was stuck in front of a mere man!

David killed Goliath. He didn't claim the daughter, and Saul never made good his promise.

David Earns Saul’s Daughter (the second time)

17 "One day Saul said to David, “I am ready to give you my older daughter, Merab, as your wife. But first you must prove yourself to be a real warrior by fighting the Lord’s battles.” For Saul thought, “I’ll send him out against the Philistines and let them kill him rather than doing it myself.”

So to Saul, his daughter is mere "bait". He does not seem to care about her or her feelings at all. In this case, the lure of marrying her would send a growing political threat to his death!

18 “Who am I, and what is my family in Israel that I should be the king’s son-in-law?” David exclaimed. “My father’s family is nothing!” 19 So when the time came for Saul to give his daughter Merab in marriage to David, he gave her instead to Adriel, a man from Meholah."

Promise two - broken.

20 "In the meantime, Saul’s daughter Michal had fallen in love with David, and Saul was delighted when he heard about it. 21 “Here’s another chance to see him killed by the Philistines!” Saul said to himself. But to David he said, “Today you have a second chance to become my son-in-law!”

This time Saul DOES consider his daughter's feelings. However, he wants to use her real infatuation to cause the death of the object of her affections. Nice Dad!!

22 "Then Saul told his men to say to David, “The king really likes you, and so do we. Why don’t you accept the king’s offer and become his son-in-law?”

23 When Saul’s men said these things to David, he replied, “How can a poor man from a humble family afford the bride price for the daughter of a king?”

24 When Saul’s men reported this back to the king, 25 he told them, “Tell David that all I want for the bride price is 100 Philistine foreskins! Vengeance on my enemies is all I really want.” But what Saul had in mind was that David would be killed in the fight."

David Earns Saul’s Daughter (the third time)

26 "David was delighted to accept the offer. Before the time limit expired, 27 he and his men went out and killed 200 Philistines. Then David fulfilled the king’s requirement by presenting all their foreskins to him."

Saul's goal - lure David to his death.

David's problem - he was not worthy to be the king's son-in-law. And there was no way he could afford the dowry that a daughter of the king would command!

Saul's solution? - Ask David to kill 100 enemy soldiers, thus ensuring his death!

David's solution? - Well, If THAT'S ALL YOU WANT! - So he went out and killed 200 enemy soldiers.

Promise number 3? - Kept!

 "So Saul gave his daughter Michal to David to be his wife.

28 When Saul realized that the Lord was with David and how much his daughter Michal loved him, 29 Saul became even more afraid of him, and he remained David’s enemy for the rest of his life."

From David's perspective? "The good news is that I married into the king's family and my wife is crazy about me!"

From David's perspective? "The BAD news is that I married into the king's family and my father-in-law (the king) HATES me!"

30 "Every time the commanders of the Philistines attacked, David was more successful against them than all the rest of Saul’s officers. So David’s name became very famous."

The first king of Israel was already pioneering what it was like to be rich and miserable. His son was David's best friend. His second daughter was married to David and was madly in love with him. And Saul was jealous of him, afraid of him, and hated him!

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